What would life be like, if, instead of hoping for support and approval from others, you gave YOURSELF everything you are longing for?
Author: Melissa Bouwer
I turn worriers into warriors - I am passionate about helping people overcome fear, worry and adversity through mindful living, kindness and positive change
Bite-sized bit – How can you better define success?
Most of us have a strong desire to be successful in life. We see success as a mountain to be conquered, a dragon to be slain, a destination to be reached – in other words, a single point in time which will define who we are.
Bite-sized bit – Starting something new is like building a puzzle
Next time you want to start something new but feel “stuck” in that fearful, frustrated state of mind we all know so well, give these puzzle-building tactics a try...
Bite-sized bit – When you aren’t ready or able to let the darkness go, find some light to lighten your load
Reflecting on this past year may bring up painful memories for you. Some might feel fresh and raw and others more like a dull but persistent ache. It’s okay to remember and it’s okay to have those feelings.
Bite-sized bit – When you / someone else is struggling, ASK…
Why do most of us find it so difficult to reach out for help when we’re struggling? What if instead of hoping that others might instinctively know what we need when we reach out, we ASK for something specific?
Bite-sized bit – Scheduling for stress vs success
You can choose to get off your hamster wheel or treadmill or whatever other device of torture you have created for yourself – all it takes is a clear direction and a bit of smarter scheduling.
Bite-sized bit – What is it costing you to stay in your comfort zone?
We tend to think of our comfort zone as a safe little nest where we know what to expect and where we can control things to a certain degree. But what if the cosy nest we so carefully construct and defend is actually just a cage?
“Subduing My Squirrels” – A technique to help you deal with overwhelm and worry
I would like to share a technique with you that has helped me get my squirrels in a row (okay, multiple rows… but at least they’re orderly). This is a great way to take everything that is crashing around in your head, lay it out, and then deal with it in an easily manageable way.
The lighter side of lockdown – That time I decided to run by choice
This is uncharted territory for everyone and I have thought long and hard about what I would like to add to the tumultuous sea of words constantly crashing down upon us. I have finally settled on offering you something that I personally desperately crave at the moment, and that is… a good laugh. So read on for a silly little story meant to brighten your day and share an insight or two along the way…
Raising resilient kids by taking the fear out of failure
I was a fearful child who grew into a fearful adult. I was afraid (and still am) of a great many things, but one of my top fears was the fear of failure. As I have learned to tame that fear I have realised how critical it is for us as parents to help our kids crush their fears while they are still at the “gnawing gently at the soul” phase, as opposed to the “savagely shredding the soul to pieces and then burning the bits” stage.
Portal to Change 