Reflecting on this past year may bring up painful memories for you. Some might feel fresh and raw and others more like a dull but persistent ache. It’s okay to remember and it’s okay to have those feelings.
Author: Melissa Bouwer
I turn worriers into warriors - I am passionate about helping people overcome fear, worry and adversity through mindful living, kindness and positive change
Bite-sized bit – When you / someone else is struggling, ASK…
Why do most of us find it so difficult to reach out for help when we’re struggling? What if instead of hoping that others might instinctively know what we need when we reach out, we ASK for something specific?
Bite-sized bit – Scheduling for stress vs success
You can choose to get off your hamster wheel or treadmill or whatever other device of torture you have created for yourself – all it takes is a clear direction and a bit of smarter scheduling.
Bite-sized bit – What is it costing you to stay in your comfort zone?
We tend to think of our comfort zone as a safe little nest where we know what to expect and where we can control things to a certain degree. But what if the cosy nest we so carefully construct and defend is actually just a cage?
“Subduing My Squirrels” – A technique to help you deal with overwhelm and worry
I would like to share a technique with you that has helped me get my squirrels in a row (okay, multiple rows… but at least they’re orderly). This is a great way to take everything that is crashing around in your head, lay it out, and then deal with it in an easily manageable way.
The lighter side of lockdown – That time I decided to run by choice
This is uncharted territory for everyone and I have thought long and hard about what I would like to add to the tumultuous sea of words constantly crashing down upon us. I have finally settled on offering you something that I personally desperately crave at the moment, and that is… a good laugh. So read on for a silly little story meant to brighten your day and share an insight or two along the way…
Raising resilient kids by taking the fear out of failure
I was a fearful child who grew into a fearful adult. I was afraid (and still am) of a great many things, but one of my top fears was the fear of failure. As I have learned to tame that fear I have realised how critical it is for us as parents to help our kids crush their fears while they are still at the “gnawing gently at the soul” phase, as opposed to the “savagely shredding the soul to pieces and then burning the bits” stage.
10 DO’s for supporting someone who is struggling with anxiety and / or panic
I hope this list can help you if you are at a loss as to how to support someone who is fighting their own life-eating leeches. Or, if you are that someone, you can choose to pass this list on to the super-heroes in your life who feel powerless to help you.
An attitude of gratitude can change your world
From that first day of gratitude journaling things began to shift, I started to see and experience things I had been taking for granted because I was actively looking for them throughout the day. The world didn’t change, but my outlook did – and that, in turn, changed my world.
Dedication (not motivation) is the key to success
We are constantly bombarded with the idea that motivation is the key to success. That having a good enough reason to want something will magically provide us with all the willpower we need to propel ourselves over, under or through any obstacle that stands in our way. The most important thing to remember, is that as much as we want to strive for a fantastic future, life happens NOW. This moment is the only reality you have, so enjoy it while it’s here. Appreciate the journey and have some fun along the way!
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